Whenever you surrender to outside negative influences over the way you think, act, behave or feel, you give them power over you. It may be subtle. You change the way you act around certain people because you want to please them, and it doesn’t impact your life too much. But many a times it’s major. You allow loved one’ s harsh criticism to take a serious toll on your health.

Giving away your personal power means draining yourself of the mental strength you need to be at your best. But there are ways to stop giving people power over you.

First establish healthy boundaries. Some people will take your time, money and space if you allow them to. It’s important to set healthy boundaries for yourself. Say no, speak up and ask for what you need.

Second start taking responsibility of your emotions. Don’t blame someone else for making you feel guilty or making you feel bad about yourself. If someone is taking undue advantage of your emotions, take positive action.

Third, acknowledge your choices. When you find yourself thinking you have to do something; change your language. Acknowledge you have some say in the matter, empowers you to take responsibility for your own life.