Social intelligence (SI) involves how we make sense of the people around us. SI requires a basic understanding of people and a set of skills for social interaction with others. It also describes a person’s interpersonal abilities. A socially intelligent person (someone with high SI) displays strong social competencies that make other people feel valued, trusted, and respected. They easily mingle up with others.

An individual with low SI often displays unsociable behavior, making other people feel frustrated, inadequate, and devalued. Often, a low SI person is not intentionally unsociable. Their behavior is often due to a lack of social awareness and understanding of how their behavior affects other people. Our relationships shape our experiences and also influence our brains. People can “catch” emotions from one another via facial expressions, moods, and other subtle ways. The more strongly we are emotionally connected to the person we are interacting with, the stronger the impact on the brain. Because of this interconnectedness, individuals with high SI have the power to build relationships and create positive feelings in the people they work and play with.

Improve your social intelligence with learning and practice

Be clear - Avoid miscommunication and misunderstandings by learning to express yourself clearly. If you’re not sure, ask.

Think before you speak - Take time to think before acting or speaking. This prevents us from acting impulsively, which may leave us with regrets later.

Avoid being judgemental- People are more likely to open up when they feel they will not be judged.

Be authentic - Most people appreciate an honest opinion expressed in a non-judgmental, non-critical way.

Connect with people - This includes making other people feel comfortable around you and feel like they are being listened to and understood. Show curiosity, have some empathy, listen to them without interrupting.

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